Don't get used to me posting daily. If you do, you will be as disappointed as a resident spouse with a romantic dinner reservation. You'll be as sad as you are when you are 15 minutes into a movie only to hear snoring next to you. I could go on all day.
My first post last night really makes it pretty clear why I decided to start this blog, but as I was walking the dogs this morning, I realized that I'd been thinking about something like this for a long time. We're halfway through our residency and now seems to be a good time to write about the first two years of experience. Awhile back, I considered writing an updated "survival" guide in eBook format that would include interactive links and resources, but that stalled out pretty quickly as I got lost in my own writing and in my day job. As I thought about this project this morning, I realized that a blog is the perfect way to generate ideas and content while gathering resources and providing folks with my musings on the whole process.
I'm going to strive to make this a weekly blog, and I'll start with pre-residency posts. These will be aimed at medical student spouses and medical students nearing residency. That last year of medical school is a special challenge by itself--there are Step exams that have to be passed, applications to consider, big choices about what program to go into, and even other stuff that significant others have to consider (like moving, getting a new job, leaving family for residency). I also welcome guest posts from female residents. I think that experience is also under represented.
As I blog, I'll build a resources page, as well. Feel free to share your favorite links or to email me with suggestions of entries or questions you'd like me to grapple with in a future entry. I'm completely open to others who want to guest post here about their experiences. I want this to be a space where the "other half" can share their own particular challenges and how they are surviving residency.
Finally, note that I in no way intend to dismiss the experiences of the medical wives who are dedicated to having children and the challenges that come with that when their husbands are in residency; however, those experiences and stories are pretty easily found on the Internet and even in books like The Medical Marriage.
This blog is written from the perspective of an older medical spouse who happens to be childless by choice. I hope that husbands, older spouses, those childless by choice, and others will find this entertaining and occasionally useful.