Dear Louise

6/13/2016

Normally I wouldn't respond to a comment like "mind your own business," but since Geez Louise walked right up into my virtual living room and basically told me to hush up (see the lone comment on the entry Wax Packs), I'm going to. People don't have to walk through the virtual door into my living room, after all.

First, "Huey" is an abstraction. However, the events really happened. If you read my follow up post to this one, you'll understand I am not "living in the past." To do so would require I actually identify Huey and try to be involved in his life. That's not what these stories are about.

Note that 15 years ago is pretty specific, Louise in Texas (IP addresses are trackable). Perhaps you're going by divorce decree date. I would argue that I truly did not know the real Huey as far back as 25 years ago. After all, if he's a whole new person, the abstraction of him in these stories thus is actually a fictional creation. Just as "Geez Louise" is a fiction--an online drag version of your true identity.

Think about that for awhile.

Secondly, if Huey has truly *found Jesus* then these stories should actually be great additions to his testimony. Think of it as free advertising in that sense. Look how Huey overcame! Look how Huey triumphed!

Finally, to the wording of "People are allowed to find Jesus." If you think that there has to be permission--that my posts are somehow not "allowing" that to happen--you might want to really examine that idea. If you feel that a few stories about my past experience of actual events that occurred are damaging to someone's actual spiritual development that says far more about how little development has actually happened. It also is telling about your own belief in the reality of that transformation.

Ultimately, if what you read here makes you upset, you have the choice not to click in. Surely you get the irony of coming on to my blog to tell me to "live in the present" and not "15 years ago" and that this is "none of my business." Don't go to a stand up show and heckle the guy on stage if you can't deal with the come back.

15 Comments

Sandi W

6/13/2016 06:28:53 am

We had a child that was told to say the FOURTH thing instead of the first thing that came to mind. I've decided there needs to be the same rule for the internet. And after coming to the fourth thing, the next test should be the THINK test. Is it TRUE? Is it HELPFUL? Is it INSPIRING? Is it NECESSARY? Is it KIND? The comments people make on facebook, news stories, and blogs truly confound me. Did we read the same story? Did you realize this is the writer's opinion/experience/life? Did I wake up in Crazy Town?

I'm a big fan of blogs because they allow me to find like minds as well as stretch my own mind with different ideas. OPINION ALERT - Reading about Huey should not make me, a Christ follower, judge Angelic. It should make me check myself. Do what I say and what I do match? Just this morning I was dealing with my words and actions not matching. Just this morning I prayed for wisdom, guidance, and a poke every time I start to say something that doesn't follow the THINK rule. I know Angelic. She is a genuine, honest, and sometimes sarcastic (shut up, I said 'sometimes') person. Thanks, Angel, for being one more confirmation (and poke) this morning.

Louise

6/13/2016 12:22:21 pm

Contrary to what your sister seems to think, I was not judging you at all - merely suggesting that you live and let live. No one needs anyone else's permission to find Jesus. I was just saying people in general should be happy for each other when their lives become fulfilled and they are living a good life. Let them be. Their past doesn't need to be brought up again and again. Sandi W. had some good points - Is it true? Helpful? Necessary? Inspiring? Kind?
I do realize it is YOUR story, your blog, your perspective. But this is a real person you are writing about. Why are you making a list of his offenses? I find your tone to be sarcastic and mocking. How sad. There are obviously plenty of people who either know or can figure out who he really is. So basically you're continuing to bash him here in this PUBLIC blog.
This is not your living room. ANYONE can read this and you've allowed anyone to be able to comment. But you seem upset when someone other than your friends and famil,y or people who agree with you actually MAKES a comment. I'm sorry. Was this Blog only meant for people who agree with everything you write? If you "can't deal with the come back", don't allow comments on your public blog.

Angelic

6/13/2016 03:13:06 pm

Look, if you stop freaking out for a minute that I told the Alistair spaghetti story you should be able to see that I look like a pretty naive, selfish fool in these stories too.

I picked him. I put up with it. I'm not blameless here either. Trust me, when I get to the Christmas Shopping story people who know and love me are going to shake their heads and want to ask me why I was such an idiot.

I'm not making these stories about Huey--these stories are about my own reflections on that time in my life. You're continued "live and let live" and other cliches make it pretty clear that you're not at a place where you can face your own past, most likely, so you want me to shut up about mine.

6/13/2016 01:31:00 pm

You realize that by not deleting or blocking your comments as spam that I'm indicating I'm perfectly capable of dealing with your comments, yeah?

I do, actually, have the power to do so.

Enjoy Hot Springs, by the way.

6/13/2016 01:47:44 pm

I'm sure you are capable of reaponding to comments. Even though there are hardly any on your posts. And yes, I know you have "the power" to block and/or delete them. Yay for you.
Not really sure why you keep mentioning my location though. That's really irrelevant.

6/13/2016 02:53:24 pm

I should thank you, perhaps, for the uptick in attention, Louise. Or is it Alistair?

By the way, the only way someone would be able to figure out who Huey is would be because the stories are true. Trust me when I say that none of the people that I still associate with from those days long past will find these stories new.

But keep trying to flame me. It is increasing the blog visibility.

Tammy Johnson

6/13/2016 02:26:27 pm

Angel.....that True, Helpful, Inspiring, Necessary and Kind is straight from Al Anon. I was there. Does this give you a significant clue to "Louise's" identity?

I can't imagine why an anonymous poster would continue to harangue you.....oh wait....I bet it's a pseudonym and old "Huey" or one of his side lovers or wife? Sounds like he's scared that bringing up the identity theft, credit cards in your name, "rasslin'" school, and various and sundry other attempts to not work and be supported by you, could be devastating to the current: marriage, laughable "life coaching" and preaching ( laughed while typing this) plans. LOLOL.

Seems like some stories are coming back to me. You know how hateful those closeted, self-loathing gay men can be. Watch yourself.

6/13/2016 03:12:40 pm

He picked up that wording from my pal Sandi's post, which he then proceeded to misread and use in his mansplaining.

And, yes, I know that's my favorite word these days.

Stacy

6/13/2016 02:13:43 pm

So, if a person finds a hiding Jesus but neglects to repair the wrongs of the past, has this person truly found Jesus? If the person who was wronged was never truly and honestly apologized to by the wrong-doer, should the person who was hurt just forget the wrongs done to them? I am NOT suggesting contact, btw, but it's something to think about. If someone from my past does something in the present to cause me to remember or consider the pain they created in the past that was never rectified, perhaps the person who originally caused the pain, or the debt, should come clean. If it had been a violent situation, the wrong-doer should turn him/herself into the authorities and/or to receive counseling. In a pick-pocket situation, he/she should return the stolen items. In a financial situation, he/she should repay all debts. Without repenting fully, the wrongs are still present, no matter how far in the past they were committed.

6/13/2016 02:30:36 pm

Stacy,

If this is "Huey", rather than "Louise" (maybe the old boyfriend he has traveled through Hot Springs to visit is his "Thelma"?), and IF he had completed the 12 Steps of AA, NA or Al-Anon, at Step 5, he would have made amends to those he had wronged. AS it stands, Angel has not received any amends, so more of the pack of lies. He's probably attended the same b s Quiverfull of Horse Manure Jebus treatment for whatever malady he proclaims. Drama queen and nuisance I say.

6/13/2016 03:15:28 pm

Just to be clear, if this is Alistair, the Stacy above is not the same one who served as your beard back in the day. She's a current neighbor.

Stacy Fletcher

6/13/2016 03:29:16 pm

No the above comment wasn't from me )Little Rock Stacy but maybe Stacy Kearney will let me adopt it because I agree with you. Someone whose basis for change is a 12 step program appropriated fromAA/NA/GA but picks and chooses the steps they want is suspect.

6/13/2016 02:51:11 pm

I think it's Alistair.

Location tracking isn't completely irrelevant to me.

6/13/2016 03:22:05 pm

Well, you and your fellow supporters have certainly got some conspiracy theories. You're determined to vilify someone. I just think it's sad and unfair. That's all. Obviously, nothing I post would matter to you. I can't imagine being so bitter and unwilling to listen to a different perspective. I will leave your "virtual living room" now. Since you obviously don't care to hear about another way of treating people.

6/13/2016 03:34:27 pm

No conspiracy. I just figured out who you are and why you have any interest at all in telling me to stop writing.

You've posted nothing of substance. You keep saying "play nice" and "don't talk about it." Those are not "different perspective" statements.

All you've done is attempt to scold me and then to "shame" me about how few comments I have, which in a blog environment doesn't really make sense at all.

Typically, blogs are not huge spaces of discourse among people who get equal authority. They are writing by the owner of said blog.

I didn't start the blog to generate unsolicited advice or be told by someone who can't even identify themselves (as my other commenters have done--as I have done). Note that there are no open questions like "Hey, what do you think?" or "Golly gee, what's a girl to do?"

RE: Treating other people a certain way--I'm not "doing" anything to anyone here. I am writing on my own blog. I'm not going to Huey's public spaces or page and leaving catty anonymous reviews, nor am I in contact with him at all. If I wanted to be a real nasty person (I really want to use some of my sentence enhancers here), I would probably be embedding videos of Huey himself, calling him out, and so on.

By contrast, you came on my site and started scolding me about what I have to say.

If you think I've been "sad and unfair" think about that for a minute.

And don't let the door hit ya on the way out.

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